Posted by: thaishin | July 17, 2008


Loneliness is a human condition and any individual will experience that feeling at one time or another. It is probably experienced when you are alone or it may be experienced even when you are in a crowd or even when you have company. Perhaps you are single and most of your friends are already married and have families and spend most of the time with their families. Perhaps you are different from your companionship and feel that you do not fit in. Perhaps you are married but your spouse do not understand you and not able to put his/her foot in your shoes. Perhaps you are a homemaker with much time to spare and looking after young children. Perhaps your spouse just passed away. Perhaps your children have all grown up and have their own lives. What do you do with your time aplenty or with your companions indifferent or lack of companionship.

The circumstances may vary but the condition and feeling is the same. Some may prescribe a cure to it. Try drugs and you will feel a high. Or the advice may be less harmful like pick up a hobby and occupy your time. Or more beneficial like find your passion and you will find fulfilment.  Or find a husband/wife and set up a family. Or spend more time in developing your career. Ultimately, it is not just to occupy your time but engage your thoughts and energy as well.

Any answers from the bible? Let’s take a look at some passages.

Psalms 25:16

Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted (NIV)

Turn thee unto me, and have mercy upon me; for I am desolate and afflicted. (KJV)

The psalmist ask God to turn to him and be gracious to him in his prayer. Yes, he prayed to God. God is omnipresent, meaning he is everywhere. This means you can pray to God anywhere, anytime and He will still hear you. But you will hear silence after your prayer, yes you will. But God answers our prayer if we ask Him (John 16:24). He may allow certain things to happen in answer to your prayer. But for that to happen, you will have to believe Him, specifically you have to ask through Jesus. And you have to ask with the right motive in the first place.

Psalms 68:6

God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing;  but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land (niv)

God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land (kjv)

Yes God will find a family for you when you are lonely. When you believe, you will be born again and will born into the family of God. All fellow believers are your family members, your brothers and sisters in christ. I am sure if a person is a true believer, he will extend his hospitality to a new believer.

Psalm 34:22

The LORD redeemeth the soul of his servants: and none of them that trust in him shall be desolate (KJV)

The LORD redeems his servants;  no one will be condemned who takes refuge in him (NIV)

I like the kjv version here. It says those who trust in him shall not be desolate. As long as we trust to put ourselves into the charge of God, we will not feel lonely or abandoned. Usually the feeling of loneliness comes with other feelings like hopelessness or insecurity, rest assured that we will find hope and security if we believe in Jesus/God  and trust in him. Security because everything works out for the good of the believer, even adverse circumstances, hence there will be no fear in us. After all, if we no longer fear death, what can harm us. Hope because Jesus is now on the right hand side of God and we know we serve a living God who conquered death, hence we live each day looking toward the day Jesus will come again.

Ultimately, however, we should be looking to Jesus to fulfill the emptiness within us so that we will not thirst again. (John 7:38 – Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, streams of living water will flow from him – niv)

So we see that loneliness can be alleviated if we believe and accept Jesus into our lives. In Him, we have security, direction and purpose. And spirituality engages our thoughts and energy. For all times, we can be alone and not lonely.

So start believing and start reading the bible where God’s gold and silver are and strive for things that are eternal instead of looking at temporal things!



  1. Yep. At all times, we should trust in Him and look ‘upwards’ instead of ‘inwards’! :-)

  2. Hi brother,

    I’ve added your blog to my blogroll … thanks for your contribution to the Christian blogosphere!

    For Him Alone,

  3. is everything part of the human condition? The subject confuses me a little and I am wary of saying such a bold statement but I cant seem to come up with any exceptions.

    “exhale and inhale, youd think life would be that easy”

  4. Hi nicole,

    Thank you for your comments. I do not claim to be an authority on the subject but just sharing what I know.
    I think loneliness is due to the fallen nature of man. Because man is separated from God by sin, there is a vacuum inside man that can only be filled if he accepts Jesus as savour into his life. Only when man knows the nature of the problem will he be able to solve it. Only by accepting God’s grace of salvation through Jesus Christ and repenting of his sins is he able to be reconciled with God.
    I think man’s loneliness can be alleviated if he has good relationships, especially with his spouse. But since even his spouse is a sinner, there will still be times when he will be lonely, especially when his needs are not met. Only Jesus can fulfill all your heart’s longings but a spouse will definitely aid in alleviating the loneliness, especially wheh the spouse is a born again believer.
    If the person is single, I guess he may turn to his close friends to alleviate the condition of loneliness. But the bible said it is not good for man to be alone, so it is better to marry unless that person has the gift of singleness.
    Sorry for the masculine intonation but a matter of illustration. Above statements are from my experience.

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